Maybe you had great chemistry or felt special when you were with them.
But in the end you and this other person or group of people went your separate ways.
Why? -----> TRUST ISSUES
The first step to any relationship whether it's a new business partner, a friend or a lover is trust. If you feel uneasy, or your messages aren't getting through, then it's impossible to continue.
Some people trust easily then get hurt often. Others take forever to trust people and in result push many potential positive people away. It's important to have your own boundaries and look for warning signs but remember that people are human. So try to observe others and the situations you're in, with multiple perspectives.
False Trust ---> Liars
It's difficult to trust people when they lie. There are ways to tell if someone is lying and many books and videos that can teach you to see the signs. But the hardest thing to deal with is when someone belives their own lies, like compulsive liars, sociopaths, or people who have been trained to erase all signs of a lie from their body and voice.
Bottom Line
Do the best you can to be open to people and watch for the signs of distrustful people. If you get hurt that's okay, learn and move on. Sometimes, it is very difficult to tell if someone is worth trusting and it happens to everyone.
- Try to be balanced, open to most things and people but have your boundaries and clearly state them to others.
- Communicate and watch how much others share. If you always share about yourself but they don't or you try to speak but they always cut you off, then the two of you can't communicate clearly; which means you cannot trust that other person yet.
- Take your time: In this modern age people want to rush everything, relationships can't be rushed.
- Take care of your self: If you feel uncomfortable let the other person know, and excuse yourself from the situation.
- Know that everyone makes mistakes and you will too.
In the end, risks are worth it, because good people are worth your time, and they would like yours in return. :)
