Rules about sex

It's hard to keep rules when your in the moment and sometimes we re-evaluate the need for rules. It's important to protect ourselves from S.T.D's and get check up appointments regularly. If a woman is sexually active and doesn't want kids it's strongly recommended to use one of the many options for birth-control. Contraceptives are crucial to avoid receiving S.T.D's.

Even if you really like someone it's important to stick to your rules or you will feel uneasy or as if you lied or tricked yourself. But at the same time no matter how careful we are shit happens and that's life. If you trusted the person enough, that you got into the situation your in, still be safe but remember you ended up with them for a reason and sometimes it's good to lower our rules or make exceptions.

• Deep down we all know what the right thing is to do but we make mistakes. 
• Don't beat yourself up about it, if you didn't do what you normally do.
• It's okay to be spontaneous. 

If you feel like you let yourself down or lied to make the other person happy, do the following:

• Tell yourself you are amazing and be proud you tried something new.
• Don't worry now it's in the past and you have the present don't ruin it.
• Think of what this person means to you, if you really like them, relax, tell yourself what would make you more comfortable next time you have a sexual encounter and do what you feel is right at that moment  Prepare yourself for the next time.
• The first time with someone new can be strange, see it as an ice-breaker, now next time will be more, passionate, safe, fun, pleasurable, ect. 
• Don't try to be clingy and just take things how they are. If you two are meant to be with each other again, it will happen. If not, he/she wasn't worth your time anyways.

Peace and love my fellow humans, we will all find our spirit connections one day, and this awkward moment could lead to great moments to come, so relax, sit back, and enjoy the ride. ;)

Never give up and don't settle

The studies of communications state that the more filters a person has the harder it is to get close to people. Most people have higher level of filters for people depending on what they mean to them in their lives.

Lowest acquaintance

In the middle family
Highest best friends or Lovers

Though it's good to have an ideal for who you want your future lover/spouse to be, it's good to cut back the list to the essentials. Pick no more that 10 and better yet 3-5 must haves you want your future mate to be like. excluding what most people should already be and that's,
emotionally, physically, and mentally secure and strong. Sadly many people and possibly including yourself, could be far below the level one should be to be stable and secure.
The problem is, many people start to look for a lover when they are in crises, depressed, or financially in trouble.
If someone does that, their filters go down and they become desperate. Then when that person becomes healthy and stable they realize they ended up with the wrong person.
DON'T DO THAT TO YOURSELF!

Now I am not saying you have to be perfect, or a Buddha/saint/ or something holy but one should at least be on the path of health and purpose.