Am I a murder?

This is a memorable text conversation I had with a close friend of mine, and thought it was too awesome not to share.

Friend:  What do you consider as the beginning of human life?
Me: 200,000 years ago, when the first Homo Sapein Fossil was found.

Friend: I mean what defines a human as being alive?
Me: Well physical is easy but mental and emotional are difficult to know. Do you feel dead?

Friend: True such a hard question? No but I wonder if I am a murder..
Me: Friend, we give life and kill things everyday. When we eat, we are killers, when we breath we destroy oxygen, when we walk we kill microscopic life.
When we exhale we give life to CO2, when we die our bodies give life to the ground. All of us give and take. No one is higher than the other. <3

Friend: Thank you
Me: Your welcome <3 



It's easy to judge others for their deeds, however we have committed the same ones every day in different ways. If you believe in past lives then it's likely you have done everything everyone has done.
If you don't believe this then you have had thoughts of killing, lust, envey at least once. Thoughts are worse than actions because they are the roots of creation.

The next time you want to judge someone for ill reasons remember this:

Are they endangering you?
Will you be hurt by them?

Probably not.

So love and have compassion because you don't know if you wouldn't have done what they did if you were born and raised with the exact same experiences.

It either works or it doesn't

Have you ever tried to make a relationship, of any kind, romantic or not, work? But no matter how hard you or everyone in evolved tried, it just always feel apart?

After a certain amount of times of trying, a person should eventually say
"you know, we tried but it's just not working."

This is fine, I will tell you why.

Have you herd the expression "life is like a river?"

Well if we are bubble on the river going with the current and then the river splits one bubble going right the other left, there's literally nothing you can do. But if you keep trying, then possibly you two will be together. But, not for long, because you will crash in the middle of the cross roads destroying everything.

Listen to what life is telling you, over look your desires.
If it's not easy then it's grinding to a halt.

If you feel stuck in a relationship, job, whatever, it's probably time for a change, however small or big that might be.

The middle road

When one learns to love themselves and the world around them it's easy to fall in love with people. But sometimes you fall in love romantically with a person that's difficult to be with. Either they are gone all the time, your really busy or the two of you live far apart from each other.

Should you never talk to them again?

No, if they are really special to you then they should stay in your life. A person can try after communicating with each-other, about the difficulty of the situation and decide to just be friends for the time being or be romantic only when they are around while looking for someone else, or be in an open relationship.

Or it can be better to just fall out of love with them and stay friends. <sounds difficult but here are some ways to keep one or both from getting "hot and bothered"
Don't sleep over
Do things in the day
Don't go to possible romantic spots
Hang out with your friends with them or in a group
Talk less or more depending on how you two feel

We are capable of loving so much, don't limit yourself, if the two of you are honest and respectful there will be a way that the two of you can still be in each others lives regardless of the difficult situation. Real friends last forever no matter how much time and space is between them.