First Date important information

The first date can be a huge hurdle to get through. There is so much you want to learn about the other person but you have to do it in a way that they don’t realize your analyzing everything about them. This can be done by picking a date where your having fun, with no pressure, and opportunities to see your date act around other people and solo with you.

Good First Date Ideas:

• A concert with a band you really like, and they like as well.
• Going out for drinks where there is live music
• An art showing/gallery
• Hiking, or another outdoor activity you share in common
• Meeting for coffee in the late afternoon (with time to spare if you want to make the date longer ;) )

Things you should find out on the first date if you serious

• Some political beliefs
• Kids, want them, don’t, maybe in the future,
• Life styles, health and fitness
• How close you are with family

^ the things above are crazy hard to get to, if you can’t sneak them into the conversation then it’s okay. Try to get at least one or two of them, lifestyle is easy. The second and third date could be a way to find out about the others.

Lets be honest, even if your not looking for something too serious the above information can get in the way. So it’s better earlier or than later to find out about them. 

Taking Breaks

• HOW MANY DATES HAVE YOU BEEN ON? 
• ;) damn you player you!
• wooh, I can’t do that, one at a time is enough for me.
• How do you keep track or them all?
• Are you in a rush or something?

Sound familiar? Sometimes with dating, we get caught up in all the excitement of meeting someone new, that we start to louse focus in our lives. Love is something we are supposed to practice on ourselves and others everyday to the best of our ability however, that doesn’t mean we have to be in a romantic relationship, to do so.

Yes the Internet has made it easier to find people who are looking for romantic love, however it can become overwhelming if your constantly making dates. 

If you find yourself always on the website, checking everyday, it might be time to take a break. Most sites will let you disable but still keep your account. 

—NON ONLINE

For those of us who prefer the winks and clever ice-breakers this advice can go for you too. If your out on the town and the only thing you can think of is dating, sex, bf/gf, it might be time to tell your mind to…GET OUT of the GUTTER.

Just enjoy people for being people. If something more romantic evolves from that awesome, but try to have that outside your mind when meeting new people. Usually people can pick up on the romance/love/creeper vibes. If you want to just fuck, or just own someone, look deep within yourself to find why you are so desperate and lonely. 

Honesty and holding back information

Honesty:a : fairness and straightforwardness of conduct b : adherence to the facts : sincerity

For someone of us, this comes easy and we naturally say the facts. For others it's hard to share ourselves and to be honest with how we feel and telling others about our emotions, and ideas. Communication is essential and so is honesty.

However, when you say certain facts about yourself is key. It's important to be honest, yes. But you don't want to tell someone your whole life story when you meet them. Your information is a vault of conversations and keys to unlocking information out of your date/partner/friend ect.

Things to avoid when you just getting to know someone. In order of avoidance.

• Extremely personal questions ex: what was the scariest thing you ever witnessed, this might be a traumatic memory and you can't promise to react correctly.
• How many people you are currently or previously seen: I know we are all curious and knowing a partners experience does matter, but it might be better to get to know them as person before you ask questions that can seem judgmental.

• Family relations: well we do want to know how close they are with family but it can lead to other conversations your not ready for yet, so hold off until you know you really like the person.

So the next time there is nothing to talk about and one of suggests the "Question Game", avoid the core information and try to stick with superficial and personal, the more sensitive information will come in time, and won't usually need to be asked, but willingly shared. 

Knowing ones self

The stereotypical romance doesn't work for everyone because everyone is different.

• Some people do well in monogamous relationship
• Some people do well in an open relationship
• Some people do better in polyamory relationship

But no matter the kind of relationship you have with someone communication is key.
When you communicate with your partner/s it's essential to talk about the following:

1. Boundaries-what your willing to do and not do
2. Communication: How much and when you would like to communicate with each other
3. Privacy-do you want the whole world to know or just the people involved
4. Seriousness: Are you planning on eventually settling down? Or just having fun?
5. Kids-yes? no? maybe? adoption?
6. Preferences: sex, relationship, food, hobbies...

The list can keep on going but with out acknowledging the following with your significant other/s then it's certain the relationship with fall down the hill and crash into pieces.