Friday, July 13, 2012

In love with the past, ignoring the present

It's easy to fall in love with an idea of a person, or the past of a person. Maybe they lied a lot and you’re in-love with their lies. But when it comes down to it, if there are problems in the present, words aren't matching actions, and overall you don't feel good, or dread talking or seeing them...something is wrong! 


It can be hard if you go in empty handed and leave negative of where you started, well throw that idea out of your head. No matter what life experience healing or exhausting there are always things to learn from and things to be proud of yourself for. Maybe there were a lot of mistakes made? That's fine, now learn from them and take your knowledge and wisdom to the next person.

Maybe there are things that are holding you back...
  • They might live nearby so it's hard to avoid them.
  • Sex may be amazing.
  • You get along in every-way except one major thing is getting in the way and causing problems.
  • You’re waiting to see if they act differently in different contexts.
  • Possibly they are going through a tough time and you want to see if they can pull through it.
No matter the reason, if this is your FIRST, impression on the person, then it doesn't matter. No one ever said you can't come back later and try again. If right now you’re not happy with them, if you stick around too long;
  • You might start resenting them.
  • Starting dislike them.
  • End up hurting them or yourself.
  • Join them in bad habits.
  • Doubting who you are.
  • Doubting love.
  • Doubting that you'll never get what you’re searching for.
 When you really like someone, you can't wait to see them, and you are happy to see them, ESPECIALLY in the beginning. If this isn't true, then move on. 

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