Thursday, August 2, 2012

Controlling your emotions/ giving 2nd chances

"She was 2 hours late, screw this I want to go home!"
"He wore that outfit today, ugg I don't think this going to work!"
"They like animals way too much, I don't want to hear about endangered species, shoots!"

So this/these people weren't up to your expectations today, they aren't as perfect as you thought they were. They made a social mistake or faux pas.
Did this/these person/s make you happy or feel good the times before?
Do you like everything else about them?

If you said yes then take a chill pill. Our emotions can run wild sometimes when our minds feel we have been lied to, or tricked. When in reality we never were, don't assume you know everything about people based on other likes and characteristics.

So you might have to adjust how or when you hang out with this/these person/people; simple just change this persons role in your role book, or realize humans are human and that finding a flaw or annoyance isn't the end of the world. It's only fair to give a second chance, wouldn't you want someone you like to give you a second chance?

If this person continues to annoy you, or you start to feel less and less connected, then that's a different story.
If this is the case then move on, the purpose of getting to know someone is to see if you can get along with them.

Respecting someone is accepting them for who they are and so, by choosing not to be around them, because you know you don't enjoy the same things and don't want them to feel bad, your doing each other a favor.

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