Feeling Depressed?

Although people on the enlightened path tend to appear happy all of the time, they aren't. Life is challenging and even those who seem seamless get caught from time to time. If you are feeling anxious or uncertain, take time to be alone in nature.

Too many people are disconnected from the natural world, especially those that rarely or never spent time in the mountains, forests, desert, ocean, streams etc. It is sad that more humans are forgetting their roots and are obsessed with technology.

15 minutes in the sun surrounded by plants and animals is more healing than a week of therapy on a couch.
So get off your computer/phone/tablet, and walk outside, hug a tree, listen to the birds, and really breath!

The art of conversation

We have all heard it before

• "It's not what you say, it's how you say it."
•  "Choose your words carefully."
•  "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say it all." 
• "I hear what you're saying, but your face says otherwise."

Did you ever think these phrases held wisdom...they DO! LISTEN PEOPLE! :) It's better to listen more and talk less until you have something meaningful to say.

Here are some ways to have a meaningful conversation without getting kicked to the curb:

• Tell an interesting story about your past.
• Talk about your hobbies and see if the other person has one in common, then go from there.
• First ask if the person likes to talk about "religion, politics, philosophy" if they do then talk about it. Smart people enjoy deeper conversations, so go for it.
• When you start to get to know the person better, occasionally share your insecurities, goals, things that make you happy, and things that make you sad. When you show you're not perfect, that person will feel comfortable to be themselves, to be human. 

Of course, for one to have meaningful conversations, one needs to know themselves. If you have been ignoring yourself, your sacred, the natural beauty of being alive, well you're going to have a hard time. It's better to be alone and self discover, before engaging with too many people. Shallow people will attract other lower thought people, and if you are trying to improve yourself it's going to make it more challenging.

Don't give up, I believe in you all, it's one step at a time, to the golden sunshine. 

Trust: the first step to any kind of relationship

Have you thought someone was really cool, fun, interesting?
Maybe you had great chemistry or felt special when you were with them.

But in the end you and this other person or group of people went your separate ways.

Why?                 ----->                              TRUST ISSUES 

The first step to any relationship whether it's a new business partner, a friend or a lover is trust. If you feel uneasy, or your messages aren't getting through, then it's impossible to continue. 

Some people trust easily then get hurt often. Others take forever to trust people and in result push many potential positive people away. It's important to have your own boundaries and look for warning signs but remember that people are human. So try to observe others and the situations you're in, with multiple perspectives. 

False Trust --->                                          Liars 

It's difficult to trust people when they lie. There are ways to tell if someone is lying and many books and videos that can teach you to see the signs. But the hardest thing to deal with is when someone belives their own lies, like compulsive liars, sociopaths, or people who have been trained to erase all signs of a lie from their body and voice. 

Bottom Line

Do the best you can to be open to people and watch for the signs of distrustful people. If you get hurt that's okay, learn and move on. Sometimes, it is very difficult to tell if someone is worth trusting and it happens to everyone. 

• Try to be balanced, open to most things and people but have your boundaries and clearly state them to others.
• Communicate and watch how much others share. If you always share about yourself but they don't or you try to speak but they always cut you off, then the two of you can't communicate clearly; which means you cannot trust that other person yet.
• Take your time: In this modern age people want to rush everything, relationships can't be rushed.
• Take care of your self: If you feel uncomfortable let the other person know, and excuse yourself from the situation.
• Know that everyone makes mistakes and you will too. 

In the end, risks are worth it, because good people are worth your time, and they would like yours in return. :)

Does a person's appearance count?

Everyone is on their own path and some people have more frequent bumps than others. Learning how people live their lives, what they eat, how they exercise, the style in which they communicate are the best indicators for if you are compatible with this person. 

For me personally:
It's important to be physically attracted to someone "smell, sight, touch, taste ;)" But on top of that, you have to love who they are not what they are. 

I'm mainly turned on by intelligence, overall intelligence. This is where the looks do come into play, if I am working hard to stay healthy and physically in shape, then I want my partner to do so, as well. Good habits take time to develop, so I look at the way a person organizes their life, their emotional maturity, their spiritual connection and their analytical mind.
 Humans are complex and it's important to find someone at or close to your level, on most aspects of life. It's the combination of similarities and differences that help relationships and one another grow. 

Conclusion:
Looks matter if you can analyze why someone looks a certain way, which takes time. Your body doesn't always reflect your mind. If the perception of that other person is so one dimensional, you can't accurately see anything in correct proportion. Judging someone based off of first impressions will leave you isolated and jaded in the end. 

You're stronger than your wounds!

                If you have scars, be proud of them. They signify that you survived a painful ordeal and are smarter because of that event. 

• When you see scars remember that your physical pain is healed. 
• Show them off, tell the stories.
•  This media obsession with perfection doesn't help anyone and is shallow. 
• Because our lines and spots say the life we've lived, and we shouldn't feel bad about the path we've taken. 

What's important is now! 

These scars I have surgical, acid, falling off cliffs I am empowered by them. The pain whether it's internal or external learn from it but don't hold on to it, stress can kill you remember! 

So kiss your wounds and move on. If you're still healing that's fine but recognize how far you've come and know that you are at different place. 

When I fell off a cliff. It's healed nicely don't worry, :)!

Today's Youth in the USA

Humans are curious beings and love to learn, but many school across the world destroy that love of learning. In the US capitalism has made people think that materials will bring them happiness. We are getting farther and farther away from community and nature. When we love ourselves then we can truly love others. Once we have self love all we want to do is give and help others. < This concept is lost in a capitalist society all though having options to direct trade such as money to hold pros. We need a more balanced society.

This is my reaction to the recent Toys "R" Us commercial. The commercial 

I love nature, I've been hiking since I was a young child. My grandfather was a forest ranger and one of the first people to educate and fight pesticides and teach people the importance or recycling in California. This definitely rubbed off on my mother who respected Native American culture and used that along with my father taking us into the forests to inspire the love of science and nature.

 -_'- It's sad children are getting bombarded by materialism crap. About age 13 I finally realized that things and being by yourself all the time can't make you happy. Then I started to make more friends and finally when I was 19 I learned to truly love myself (I loved the world but not myself and I finally understood that I am apart of this world and I deserve to love myself) and I finally found true happiness. The more we teach kids to be selfish and materialistic the longer it's going to take them to wake up to reality.

Keep your childhood innocence while maintaining monk like wisdom.

Stealing is not Love

I watched a video by Onision and realized there are a lot people don't believe in love and that's probably because they have had so much suffering in there life that they haven't been given the gift yet.

Love isn't supposed to be cruel. True love is about giving to each other, for the happiness and well being of the world. To keep loving and giving for us to all heal and reach enlightenment and beyond. Stealing is taking from yourself. If this woman who stole from this man's heart and pocket book grew up, she would realize that by hurting him she is hurting herself and that's it's cruel and not needed. Life is hard enough, it makes me angry when people try to make life harder for others.

Check out this guy he is very talented and interesting person to watch and listen to. <not trying to sound weird.

http://www.youtube.com/user/OnisionSpeaks
http://www.youtube.com/user/Onision